Have you ever really looked at your vulva?
Lots of people with vulva really don’t know what they look like between their legs. It’s a bit hard to understand that you’re normal and beautiful if you haven’t ever really looked. The thing about vulva is they are amazing. All of them. Every single one. All of the details are gorgeous - the folds and ripples and creases and contours and colours and how the skin moves and is textured. Just leaning forward and looking down doesn’t give you a very good perspective though. To really get a good look at your vulva you need a mirror.
A 15 minute challenge for you
I want you to get to know your vulva better. Get yourself a hand held mirror, or position yourself in front of one so you can sit or lean back comfortably with your legs spread wide apart. Take off your undies, and start to look at yourself. Touch it, spread your lips apart, pull back your clit hood and look at your clitoris. Feel your labia majora and open them up. Do the same with your inner lips too, stretch them, see them at rest and take in their fascinating detail. Look at your vaginal opening and spread it open. Look inside if you can. Look at your anus too. Really have a good look at your bits and pieces and appreciate the exquisite details of your vulva and your crotch. When you take the time just see yourself as others would see you, you’ll start to appreciate how beautiful you are. Take the opportunity to masturbate and watch as your vulva physically changes from being at rest, to arousal, and then orgasm. Take note of all the changes you see, in the shape, colour and texture of your vulva. And apart from the joy of coming, start to appreciate the magic that happens to your body.
This will be a difficult challenge for many people, especially those who harbour fears or inhibitions about their vulva. But believe me, if you’re one of those people you will get the most from this. It might take more than one try to start to appreciate yourself. So please try this for 15 minutes every day for a week, and see how your feelings about your vulva change.
I want you to try doing this, and to write back and describe your experiences, especially whether it helped you better understand your vulva. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or use the Ask or Comment link.
Will you do this?